How to Fall in Love with Yourself (and Your Resume)

C. Jane Taylor, Author

I’ve been giving a lot of resume building workshops lately. It has been super satisfying. The biggest takeaway for me has been how surprised people are that resume writing requires introspection – the good kind. In my workshops, I give writing prompts about strengths and life experiences that ultimately get my clients to think and write about self-love.

Who knew that self-love could be part of the resume writing experience? Me! As I interview clients each day about their strengths and goals, they start to sparkle with confidence and…well, self-love.

Self-love has been getting a bad rap lately. Some suggest that self-love equates to self-indulgence, pedicures, and $100 yoga tights. It is none of these things. On this Valentine’s Day, we will explore why self-love is important to your resume. We’ll also look at ways to cultivate it.

Why is self-love so important in your resume? Two reasons: confidence and svadharma. You must exude confidence in your resume, which takes practice. Before you can convince anyone else, you must first convince yourself. Self-love helps. So does body language. (here’s a cool Ted Talk about that.) Svadharma is a Sanskrit word that is often interpreted as ‘right livelihood’ it can also mean ‘your own truth path’. Your resume can act as a roadmap on that path if you approach it right. (Hint: include aspects of your personal mission statement in your resume.)

Here are some small steps you can take to start to find self-love:

Journal – As a writer, I love this one. Check in with yourself at least once a week. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Journaling is one of the best ways to get to know yourself. And to know you, is to love you. This writing will support your resume, too.

Remember – Remember something fabulous. The word remember comes from the Latin memor ‘mindful’, the re- part expresses intensive force. Really be mindful. The act of remembering something wonderful activates the brain’s pleasure circuit. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between the actual delight and the recalled delight and thus its neurons release dopamine. Which is totally dope. Remember what you were doing when you felt “this is what I was meant to be doing”. Your resume should touch on that experience in some way.

Be Interesting – You would not fall in love with (or hire) a boring person, so don’t be one! Do something that strikes your fancy: take a class, learn something new, read a book, listen to a podcast, learn how to Hula Hoop, learn how to teach your dog how to Hula Hoop! Once your are more interesting to yourself, it will be easier to convey how terrific you are in your resume (and cover letter).

Make Some Goals – Having a goal creates ambition and direction. Direction creates momentum. Momentum gets your beautiful brain moving. If images work better for you than lists or sweeping statements, make a Vision Board that represents your aspirations. Refer to it over and over again.

Take Credit Where Credit is Due – Congratulate yourself for something you accomplished. Even doing something as small as making a list and checking off little accomplishments creates motivation as it releases dopamine. Again, totally dope.

Appreciate the Little Things – Your new love (YOU) may not be totally perfect. Maybe you have a lovely singing voice, or beautiful ankles, or are a great astronomer, or make great puns. Maybe you are exceptionally organized or the champion of team spirit. Appreciate that wonderful thing about yourself.

Before you sit down to write your resume, give yourself the boost of self-love. Future you will thank you.

If you’re still struggling with your resume, contact me. I’m a writer; I can help.

Happy Valentine’s Day.


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